For as long as I can remember, I’ve always disliked attending weddings. I don’t dance, I don’t drink, and I’m not fond of making small talk with distant relatives or acquaintances I haven’t seen in ages. Finding enjoyment at these events seemed impossible. Most of the time, I found myself hiding in the back, scrolling through my phone, avoiding contact, and eagerly waiting for dessert to be served so I could leave.
I was always certain that I wouldn’t have a big wedding. Just the absolute essentials. I managed this with no attendees at all, except for the notary clerk. The perks of marrying a fellow introvert 😎. However, I do undestand that many introverts out there may want to have an open wedding, since they want to share this joyous day with their loved ones. For those inclined towards a more open wedding, it’s wise to carefully consider and plan around elements that might negatively affect your experience, ensuring your wedding remains a cherished memory.
Smart Venue Location
First things first: the wedding venue. Choose a venue that’s intimate and cozy, not grand and spacious. A tranquil garden, a small historical library, or even your backyard can set the perfect stage for a low-key yet meaningful celebration. Look for a place with quiet corners where you can escape from time to time to find solace and recharge.
Guest Selection: Quality over Quantity
One of the most difficult tasks when planning a wedding is the guest list. Often, there are heated arguments between the couple and the in-laws about who to include and exclude. Be firm in your decisions and make only essential compromises. Allow some people you wish you hadn’t but must, according to your significant other or parents, but not everyone. Think of it as a gift to them. Invite those who genuinely bring you joy and understanding. Remember, your wedding day is about celebrating love, not enduring forced interactions.
Embrace Your Partner’s Support
Your partner is your soulmate and your social buffer. Lean on them as your designated social mediator, allowing them to handle awkward introductions and engage in conversations that might drain your energy. Remember, your partner is there to support you and help you enjoy this special day.
Ditch the Normal Etiquette
Don’t feel obligated to follow all the traditions associated with weddings. For example, you can greet guests as they arrive at the reception, instead of making them wait for your grand entrance. Also, you can opt-out of cutting the cake in front of everyone or having the first dance. Have a dancing ensemble perform instead, and invite everyone to the dance floor towards the end of their act.
Photographic Escape
Communicate with your photographer about your introverted nature. Arrange for candid shots instead of prolonged photo sessions. A good photographer can capture your essence without turning the lens into a spotlight.
Buddy System: Delegate and Relax
Assign a trusted friend or family member as your social buffer as a backup when your significant other is away. They can handle questions, direct guests, and even rescue you from conversations that are lasting too long.
Exit Strategy: Disappear Gracefully
If social exhaustion starts to set in, politely excuse yourself and find a quiet corner to recharge, preferably with a friend who understands your need for peace and will whisk you away for a made-up chore that needs attending.
Remember, your wedding day is about celebrating love, not about conforming to social expectations. It can still be the best day of your life, even if you spend half of it hiding in the bathroom (we won’t judge) 🥳.
