Introverts and phone calls never went along. If you are a bit like me, the mere thought of using the phone sends shivers down your spine. You’d rather take a trip to the dentist than make a phone call. But still in this day and age where everything is almost automated and communication with text messaging is at its highest, there are times when using the phone is an unavoidable task. In this post, I hope to cover all tips and tricks to tackle using the phone when you have to and how to avoid it when you can.
Rule #1: Embrace Technology
Of course if we could text for the rest of our lives we would. How ideal would be to never hear our ringtones or vibrations again? Unfortunately, it is not up to us. Some people still call and they want to chat. (I exclude the people that know you and keep their message short and to the point). So what do you do when someone is calling and you are not up for talking? Just text back (not right away) and say you cannot talk at this time. Of course you should also ask through text why this person is calling you so you can start a conversation through text and keep it there as long as possible.
Rule #2: Know when to call
If you have to make a phone call and cannot avoid it, try calculate the ideal time for the call. And what is the ideal time? It depends. You want to call for a doctor’s appointment and you want to avoid calling back? Try to call at the beginning or the closing of the opening hours. Have to talk to a person that you really want to avoid? Try calling them when they are working.
Rule #3: Prepare Yourself
If you must use the phone, it’s essential to prepare yourself beforehand. Write down what you want to say and practice it a few times. Having a script will make the conversation flow more smoothly, and it will help you avoid awkward pauses. Additionally, make sure you’re in a quiet and comfortable environment. Being in a noisy or uncomfortable environment can make the task of using the phone even more daunting.
Rule #4: Set Boundaries
As an introvert, it’s essential to set boundaries for yourself. If you don’t feel like using the phone, that’s okay. You have the right to decline a phone call or reschedule it for another time. You don’t have to answer the phone every time it rings. It’s also okay to let the person know that you prefer to communicate through other means, such as email or messaging apps. Remember, it’s all about setting boundaries and doing what makes you feel comfortable.
Rule #5: Cut Short the Conversation
If you find yourself in a phone conversation that you want to end, there are ways to cut it short with a few tricks.
- Set a time limit: At the start of the conversation, let the other person know that you only have a few minutes to talk. This sets expectations and gives you an easy out when the time is up.
- Mention your schedule: If you need to be somewhere or have a meeting coming up, let the person know. This shows that you have other commitments and can’t talk for too long.
- Ask for a rain check: If you’re really pressed for time, ask if you can call the person back later or schedule another time to talk. This lets them know that you’re interested in what they have to say, but just can’t chat right now.
- Use nonverbal cues: If you’re in a public place or with other people, use nonverbal cues to signal that you need to end the conversation. Start walking away, look at your watch or check your phone, or gesture to someone else that you need to talk to them and make them call your name like you are needed.
In conclusion, using the phone may never be an introvert’s favourite task but we tried to give you a few tips to make it more manageable. Remember to embrace technology, prepare yourself beforehand, set boundaries, and prepare to cut short conversations.Also try to always be polite and respectful when you’re ending a conversation early. Thank the person for their time, let them know you’ll talk to them soon, and end the call gracefully.
